Where is Taffer When You Need Him??!!

You’ve seen the TV show Bar Rescue right? Well I need his help. I opened a bar and restaurant with a friend and he is turning out to be a complete asshole/idiot.

He doesn’t want the kitchen to prep anything. He wants everything cut fresh to order. He must smoke crack. 

Our cook has worked 30 days straight because he hasn’t hired another cook after having me fire the other one. Maybe if he didn’t sleep all day….

He wants our pretzel hamburger buns to be made in house. Great concept only he hires his Aunt to make them and they suck. The money he spends on paying her to make them + ingredients= not cost effective. And customers complain about them so I buy kaiser buns for those who request a different bun. What happens? They get thrown out.

My cook prepped veggies for next shift. What did he do? Throw them out. Again= not cost effective.

We need beer on tap. Haven’t done that. He thinks we should carry domestic even though customers want craft beers. I say carry both. The result= an empty kegerator we use as a bar countertop.

Speaking of bar setup- he builds the shelves for bar and there isn’t even enough room for all of our liquor as I clearly attempted to pointed out prior to his project. Did he listen? Hell no. 

A reach in cooler that I keep import beers in went out on us weeks ago. There it sits behind the bar still not working with new cooler sitting next to our entrance for customers. I found a guy who would move it for us after hours (when he is there getting drunk) do you think he has called him? Hell no. 

We close at midnight yet after the kitchen is all torn down he makes the cook open back up to cook his friend a sandwich. After. We. Have. Closed. Our poor bartender doesn’t get out of their until 4:30am sometimes because she is kept after by him. Ridiculous. 

He doesn’t come in until late at night and gets drunk and stays up til noon the following day and leaves notes all over the place like an Easter egg hunt with random bitching. I seriously think he has a drug problem.

Everything is in my name. EVERYTHING. And he’s bad for business. 

He wants hand cut French fries but REFUSES to allow them to soak in water to pull out the starch so they are mushy when you see fry them. Customers complain. He “don’t give a fuck” as he says everyday all day. It’s his way or no way.

He’s never worked a single day in a restaurant or bar yet he thinks he knows it all. He’s a joke.

And then there is his mother. She does not own the place. (Legally I own 100%) and only he and I are on the lease yet she verbally harassed the employees and then he tells our cook his mom is the boss. WTF??? She is evil. She has no place in there. She helps make those shitty pretzel buns. 

He does zero. I do everything. I order alcohol. I do the shopping. I bartend. I waitress. I hire. I do the schedule. You name it. I do it with zero help. NOW he doesn’t want me to hire anybody without his approval first. Super. He sleeps everyday until who knows when.  Yet he tells me what I’m doing wrong or that I’m….wait for it…. Not trying hard enough.

I can’t take it. He texts me at 3am in a drunken stupor calling me a mother fucker and dumbass and accuses me of stealing. He’s out of his damn mind. I have had countless customers tell me how they think he is on coke. Terrific.  He keeps adding stuff to the menu. Ridiculous stuff like deep fried twinkies, hot dogs, soups and any other random shit he pulls out of his ass. 

I’m to the point where I need to see a lawyer. When I’m not there (and he is there drunk) he is behind the bar drinking (not cool) and giving away drinks for free. He is going to ruin this business. If I want to buy a drink for somebody I do just that. I buy it. With cash. Not just pull it out of cooler and alight a match to our profit. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m stuck. I’m the owner and 100% shareholder on paper but it was his money that built it. Granted, everything was my idea. The concept, decor, logo, etc. 

I NEED Bar Rescue before I lose my mind…. And my business. 


Zero raised

While we are not “poor” or struggling, fertility expenses have stacked up and we have one more try at a fresh IVF cycle. Hopefully a few embryos make it to freeze so we have 1-maybe 2 more chances. Not holding our breath but it’s worth the sliver of hope. Planning ahead, we will adopt if all of this fails. Maybe that is what we are meant to do. Small problem…adoption is not free. It would take us some time to save up the funds for such a blessing. In a meek attempt I came up with a few shirts on booster.com/norbybaby. In 3 weeks we have sold ZERO. It breaks my heart. Not one. Zero. I know everybody has their own problems but I had this small voice in my head saying “if they can buy Starbucks everyday or spend $200 on a purse, surely they have $20 to buy a shirt and help us with our goal.” I was wrong. Maybe people are sick of seeing my posts about trying to find lost dogs or trying to have a baby. Maybe they have hidden me from their newsfeed cuz I’m not posting a bunch of fun stuff or I am simply posting too much. After these thoughs, I have socially withdrawn myself. I don’t have anything fun to talk about. I don’t think bad about anybody not buying the shirt-don’t get me wrong… I’m just sad. Sad beyond words that I just can’t picture anything working out for us. Maybe we weren’t meant to be parents? I don’t know. That’s how I feel at this point in time. I see no light at the end of the tunnel. Still not giving up though. Just running out of ideas to keep me motivated. Patience is a virtue. But I have been sitting in that virtue for years now. I will be 40 in August. Slightly freaked.

Super Shirt!

This is a picture of our super creative shirt we came up with for our fundraiser. Some people may find our name with a family tree to be a bit boring or corny. So we kept it boring 🙂
If anything, we hope that a stranger may read the shirt and say “Whyyyyyy???” And that my friends is how word of mouth may begin to travel. Fingers crossed this helps us even a tiny bit!!!!

Our fundraiser shirt

We are financially stable and hoping IVF #2 works but we are planning ahead in case we have to do further IVF cycles or if we decide to adopt. If IVF#2 works then the money will help pay off the enormous mountain of bills we get in a monthly basis. So here is our little shirt. We are trying to think of a funny one too. If you are looking for ideas go to booster.com and create your own shirt! It’s easy, free, and fun. We can only pray this helps us with our goal of having a baby some day.
If you want to help spread the word or buy a shirt for some poor saps who can’t have kids that you’ve never met in your life… Then go to www.booster.com/norby and order yourself this awesome shirt. The husband is trying to think of a funny tongue in cheek one for some goofball friends of ours to wear proudly. Hope this helps us and I hope this idea may help other people raise money for themselves as well.